Dear Journal,
Have you ever had two friends that you really value, and vice versa, that hate each other's guts? In that case, you are caught in the middle, especially when they are in a disagreement. What do you do? Well, here are a few solutions.
1. Distance yourself; don't let them vent to you about the other person. Tell them that that is between them and it's none of your business. That way they can't ask you what the other person said to you and create more drama.
2. Talk to both of them separately; even though you want to keep yourself out of their dispute, talking to them separately can help them resolve their issue quicker. Ask each one what's going on, how they feel about it, what they've done to "stir the pot," and how they can help to get the problem fixed.
3. "Blackmail" them; don't worry, this isn't as bad as it sounds, but sometimes when the argument that they are having is too heated and your being pulled into it, the best thing to do is give them a stern warning. Tell them that if they don't stop fighting with and without you around, that you'll stop hanging out with them. Follow through with it, though. Sure, it'll be hard to not talk to your friends, but sure enough they'll come around and understand how their disagreement is affecting the people around them and how important them getting along is to you.
These are only a few suggestions for you to use when you are confronted with this situation. I know that it isn't only physically tiring, but emotionally, when you are trying to get your friends from clawing out each other's eyeballs, lol. Well, I hope that you've been able to take away something from this post!
Love Always <3,
Katrina Lowell
Have you ever had two friends that you really value, and vice versa, that hate each other's guts? In that case, you are caught in the middle, especially when they are in a disagreement. What do you do? Well, here are a few solutions.
1. Distance yourself; don't let them vent to you about the other person. Tell them that that is between them and it's none of your business. That way they can't ask you what the other person said to you and create more drama.
2. Talk to both of them separately; even though you want to keep yourself out of their dispute, talking to them separately can help them resolve their issue quicker. Ask each one what's going on, how they feel about it, what they've done to "stir the pot," and how they can help to get the problem fixed.
3. "Blackmail" them; don't worry, this isn't as bad as it sounds, but sometimes when the argument that they are having is too heated and your being pulled into it, the best thing to do is give them a stern warning. Tell them that if they don't stop fighting with and without you around, that you'll stop hanging out with them. Follow through with it, though. Sure, it'll be hard to not talk to your friends, but sure enough they'll come around and understand how their disagreement is affecting the people around them and how important them getting along is to you.
These are only a few suggestions for you to use when you are confronted with this situation. I know that it isn't only physically tiring, but emotionally, when you are trying to get your friends from clawing out each other's eyeballs, lol. Well, I hope that you've been able to take away something from this post!
Love Always <3,
Katrina Lowell
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